The Hating Game (movie) is… just fine.
This review contains spoilers for the book and the movie.
Sally Thorne’s The Hating Game is justly beloved. As Em wrote in her review, the novel is quirky, funny, romantic, delightful, and most of all, charming. It’s also sexy as hell. Romancelandia was pumped when Thorne’s book was optioned in 2017 and we’ve waited ever since to see Lucy and Josh on the big screen. Yesterday, they arrived–the movie landed in theaters and may also be streamed.
I’ll admit, I’ve been nervous about this adaptation–favorite books so rarely make favorite movies. I watched it with Dr. Feelgood, curious to see what he’d think about it–he loved it, sap that he is. I didn’t love it but I didn’t hate it either. I enjoyed it and suspect many of you will too.
Let me start by talking about what works.
I give high marks for the casting–Lucy Hale and Austin Stowell not only give lovely life to Thorne’s leads, the two have incandescent chemistry. Stowell, in particular, wonderfully realizes Josh’s broody, frustrated love for Lucy. His Josh is a man who seems to have it all and yet Stowell deftly shows Josh’s insecurities–it’s easy to see why Lucy can’t resist him. Josh’s character is also given a deeper backstory–disappointingly, there’s little here about Lucy’s family and her psychological history–and it’s impossible not to root for him to overcome his fear of being hurt by yet another person he loves. When Hale and Stowell banter–the scene where they put down their imaginary weapons while sitting at their respective desks is brilliant–you can’t wait for them to do it again.
The movie is also–woo hoo!!!–genuinely sexy. This is not, thank the gods, a closed door film. Lucy and Josh are both profoundly lust-struck and every time they touch, it’s steamy. Lucy is more sexually aggressive than Josh and it’s great fun to watch her enjoy herself with Josh in bed. Their love scenes are sensual and emotionally rich and–I so love this–filled with humor.
The supporting cast is good, especially Damon Daunno as Danny–he’s funny and far more of a catch than he is in the book. The film looks good–it’s set in Manhattan–and the costumes are appealingly appropriate.
What doesn’t work?
The pacing is uneven–at times the film seems too slow, fixated on small irrelevancies, and, in others, things that matter are rushed. Lucy and Josh’s famous elevator kiss seems to come out of nowhere while the way the Big Mis plays out takes an unbelievably long time.
The latter is especially problematic. For much of the film, Josh’s love for Lucy is clearly what drives almost all he does and yet the way in which he lets her believe he’s a dick who just wants to hurt her over their job competition makes him seem cruel. I didn’t buy the reasoning behind it–this did not happen in the book–and I didn’t like it AT ALL.
I’d have liked more of Lucy’s backstory, more of the Smurfs, more of Lucy’s life outside of work and Josh–the woman has no friends or really anything in her life other than her job and the hating game she plays with Josh. In some ways, there just wasn’t enough in the film–the movie clocks in at an hour and 42 minutes which wasn’t long enough to do both characters and their hot, halting love story justice.
The Hating Game isn’t perfect but I’m very happy it got made–I hope it will be successful enough that other sexy rom-coms will follow. I’d give it a B and I bet had I not read and so adored the book, my grade would be higher.
Have you seen it? What did you think?
I know the music and the kissing is supposed to make this a romance but as an adult survivor of parental narcissistic abuse, this movie seems like a long slog through triggering events. I didn’t read the book so maybe there’s love in it and Lucy is not such a cruel, unfeeling, predator but in the movie, she’s self absorbed, superficial, and heartless.
Josh is the black sheep of his dysfunctional family who has just experienced another major betrayal from the people who are supposed to love him best when he is tasked to go in and revive a failed company. Because he makes changes to improve the company and doesn’t act or dress the way Lucy thinks is right, she bullies him. Her attacks are personal and mean. A child raised in neglectful chaos tries to control his environment in adulthood so her messing with his neat desk and constantly telling him his tie is crooked are examples of her invading his space. I have had coworkers do things like this to me and it didn’t make me love them.
Lucy is a disorganized mess jealous of Josh while fighting her sexual attraction to him. They have nothing in common other than the workspace and it’s like seeing a racehorse paired with a nag. One frame in the movie of her broken old copier next to his sleek, modern, and functioning copier says it all. Do we believe this woman scribbling her presentation on a spiral bound notebook is any competition to a Harvard MBA?
Poor Josh’s heartbreak is on full display throughout the film for which Lucy shows not an ounce of emotion or empathy. I was sobbing after Mindy’s revelation at the wedding and would have rushed to Josh’s side to comfort him as he stood there awkwardly watching. I just wanted to hug him and rub his back like he did Lucy’s when she was sick. Lucy’s first thought is about herself and whether she was used.
I could go on with every scene where Josh reveals his insecurities or pain and Lucy barely responds, much less with kindness and compassion. Who acts this way? He’s a human being not the evil nemesis, punching bag or sex toy she seems to think he is. Josh needs to go to therapy to understand why he gets bored without conflict, and why he picks women who are mean to him and just want him for sex. Lucy is not good for him and one could see her ending up with Danny who she doesn’t secretly envy and despise even though he appears to be an extremely intelligent trust fund baby.
I bought this movie and will rewatch it every time I need a good cry.
I agree that, in the movie, Lucy is much less likable than she is in the book. And I deplore the trend towards mean heroines. As Caz has said, fighting the patriarchy by having women take on characteristics we dislike in men isn’t a win for anyone.
I just reread The Hating Game and I loved it as much as I did the first time, which I actually didn’t expect given how overall people seem to have soured on it since its pub. But what I noticed was how much of my reading experience comes from the prose – her writing as a first person narrator is just delightful. That kind of thing is really hard to capture in a film adaptation (one exception I can think of is Bridget Jones and her hilarious voiceover). I wonder if that is why the film excerpts seem kind of flat. I still haven’t seen the full thing.
I love that book but not one of her others has done a thing for me. Have you read the others?
Yes, we did a Pandora on one of them together :) No, they didn’t work for me, either.
I also felt like the pacing was off! I really wish they would’ve included at least a montage of them spending time together at Josh’s apartment, that way them building a bond/emotional connection wouldn’t have felt so rushed and random.
I do think it was just too short. I really think it would have been better served with the Bridgerton treatment!
I was excited to watch The Hating Game and agree with wanting to see more of Lucy’s backstory with the Strawberry Farm and Smurfs. I also thought it could have been brighter and prettier. I saw Love Hard on Netflix last night and the scenery and all of the settings were more fun. I wondered if THG had a low budget?
You know, once again, I am irritated (if not actually angered) that film makers take a great book that lays out the dialogue, character, conflict–everything–but the movie “improves” on those. Scripts written by so many writers these days almost always insures a movie’s disjointedness. Such assumption of “We can do it better” reflects the general disrespect for fiction, especially for romances.
Have you seen it? They hew pretty closely to plot and use most of the dialogue.
Thanks for the review, Dabney. Am up for another Christmas romance.
I enjoyed it. It’s not perfect but my husband and I both liked it. Enjoy!
Watched it and liked it. Surprised at the contempt here for a decent flick–AAR reviewers seem to have left trad romance behind. That is sad.
I don’t think that’s true. While there are some who, admittedly, have moved away from traditional contemporary and historical romance, others–like me–are still reading and enjoying mainstream love stories!
Why are you complaining that the site’s reviewers hold contempt for trad romance when the only comments they’ve left behind on this post are “I didn’t feel the chemistry between the leads,” “I didn’t know this movie existed” and “Why aren’t there any love scenes?”
Contempt is not an accurate description of my feelings about this movie whatsoever, and is not the word I would use to describe how I felt about the movie. I love the book, I didn’t like the movie. No biggie.
I continue to love traditional romance and spend/have spent many hours reading, enjoying and reviewing those books here and elsewhere.
I agree, Em. I didn’t sense any contempt.
Bad word choice by moi.
Meant the expectations for trad rom here are outsized. Feel if it were an alt pairing, there’d be more squeeing.
…But that’s worse. You realize this comment makes what you said sound worse don’t you?
I didn’t know there was a movie either. After watching the trailer, all I could think of “Why New York?” The author is Australian and really didn’t give a setting in the book, so fine, it could be anywhere, so why NYC? Other than that, the movie just doesn’t seem appealing to me. Pass.
Didn’t even know it was being made – will see it soon!
I’m willing to watch it, but I’m struggling with the cast. In the trailer, at least, the actor who plays the hero comes across as utterly generic. I can’t picture his face even moments after watching it – I just summon up some random square-jawed white guy (currently I’m picturing the guy who played Warner in Legally Blonde). And Lucy Hale seems more like she should be playing an intern than someone up for a major promotion.
That being said, I’m so happy to have anybody willing to bring out a romance novel movie adaptation where they don’t delete the sex scenes. Romance has SO much to say about sex, and the role it plays in relationship development, and the way characters should take their personalities into the bedroom. I’m tired of pop culture sex being overwhelmingly directed and framed by men. So I’m excited for that and glad you think it was done well.
Apparently Lucy Hale was who Thorne had in mind for the part from the get go.
DG mentioned that there weren’t any close door love scenes. But there also aren’t any actual love scenes either? She ogles his naked body; they have INTENSE kissing (I felt like I saw the same kiss over and over again – he always ends up carrying her for some reason); and she mentions lots of orgasms. So while I would agree it isn’t quite PG, it barely dips its toes into physical intimacy.
I’m glad it’s a movie. I love seeing my favorite books on the big screen. I thought it was a miss.
Oh, bummer! Why is it that “they” think that romance readers don’t want something spicy? Did they miss the whole Bridgerton/Outlander thing???
It’s not as spicy as Bridgerton, but I thought it was pretty sexy. It’s certainly a lot hotter than most Netflix rom coms which I think is what it is most like.
When did he carry her? He picked her up to kiss her. That’s a thing when there’s a huge difference in sizes/heights. I dated a basketball player in high school who was 15 inches taller. When he kissed me he had to bend awkwardly to get at me. I was surprised the first time he picked me up to kiss but it worked so much better so got used to it quickly.
I saw it and read reviews. I didn’t feel the chemistry between the leads, I missed the witty dialogue in the novel, and I just could not get into it. I think she’s miscast, too. The wedding scenes were painful. I’m in the Hating It camp.
As my mom always says, it takes all kinds of people to make a world.
I thought their chemistry was lovely and the wedding scenes, especially when Lucy sticks up for Josh, made me happy!
I haven’t seen any ads, trailers or posters for it here – according to Google, no UK release date has been set, but it’s going to be available on Amazon Prime. No mention of a cinema release though.
She posted on SM that an international rollout is coming soon.
Honestly, it’s not a priority for me – I’ll probably have forgotten all about it by then!