Pamper Yourself


Tuesday is Valentine’s Day and for some it is just another day, either by choice or because of the lack of a significant other.  If you want to be in a relationship or have just ended one then it can be a difficult.  I remember when I worked in an office full of women with the majority receiving flowers or talking about their plans for the evening.  And yes, I had my share of pity parties on February 14th.

If you don’t have plans, then you can turn it around and make it a day where you pamper yourself.  You have time today to plan ahead and decide how you are going to do something nice for yourself.

Love flowers?  Buy yourself some.  It doesn’t have to be expensive – flowers from your local grocery store, or Wal-Mart can do a lot to cheer up a room.  I have to admit that buying flowers is difficult for me.  I pick them up and then think no, you don’t really need them.   But when I do indulge I get so much enjoyment just walking into the room and seeing them.

If you are like me, then you don’t mind spending hours cooking a special meal for other people, but when it comes to cooking for yourself, it is too much bother.   While you sure don’t want to spend four hours in the kitchen after you get home from work,  cook something that you really enjoy instead of  TV dinners or cereal.  You can make the dinner special by setting a pretty place setting and using your good dishes.  If you hate to eat alone, then invite a friend over for dinner.

Valentine’s Day is cause enough for chocolate, but on this day eat the really good stuff and savor it. 

Of course you can do many other things besides candy, meal and flowers.  Think of what makes you feel pampered and do it. Don’t wait for someone else to treat you special.  Do it yourself, and have a wonderful day. 

Share how you pamper yourself.

 – Leigh




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02/13/2012 2:24 pm

Pat, that sounds good, and you are right it the little things like the elegance of the arrangement that make fruit that you might eat every day seem special.

We had our first snow today of winter 2012, and I am thinking of flowers – to give me hope that spring is around the corner when it is 30 degrees outside.

02/13/2012 1:46 pm

My husband and I are getting an Edible Arrangement because there’s just something happy and fun about picking strawberries and other fruits off a beautiful arrangement rather than a supermarket container.

He used to bring home flowers and candy, but fresh fruit seems to be a better fit for us these days.

02/13/2012 12:55 pm

It’s not that I’m bah-humbug over Valentine’s Day, because I believe it is a fun day for some people. I love the colors and the hearts and things like that. But my husband and I don’t do it. Now that I have a grandchild, I can see focusing on her for a while in the future with this day. How quickly perspectives can change. For those whom this holiday means a lot, I hope all their expectations come to reality. And for those whose expectations are a bit lower, Happy Valentine’s Day anyway. :)

02/13/2012 12:15 pm


I love tulips and just seeing them on my table or nightstand makes me feel special and happy.

Valentine’s Day has become so imbued with significant as the day your love one buys you this wonderful magnificent special gift or treats in an extravagant manner that is so far removed from my experience.

Many men (I won’t say most men because I don’t know) don’t get into the whole gift giving. They hate to shop, don’t how how to pick out sexy lingerie – well maybe they do know that but is it comfortable – not so much, forget the perfume you wear, and end up buying you chocolate when you are on a diet. And many people after being together for a while, have plans for their money like buying a house or taking a trip instead of buying expensive gifts just seven weeks after a major gift giving holiday.

Don’t get me wrong, it is a nice day, and I sure many women have loving memories of this day, and for others tomorrow will be wonderful.

maggie b.
maggie b.
02/13/2012 11:04 am

Love your idea about the flowers Leigh. I haven’t gotten flowers in years, even with a signifcant other. Getting some for myself may be my only chance.

You can also eat out without eating out- by which I mean call a good restaurant and order take out.

Some of my friends and I used to go out together to celebrate. Not having a significant other doesn’t mean not having someone to be with